Thelma & Louise: Welcome to Part 2 of The Big Victoria’s Secret
“Victoria Secret” is a red head. So that makes her feisty and adorable. Two months ago I had the privilege of interviewing her in an anonymous fashion because she was in the early stages of learning her current predicament of getting breast cancer and didn’t want anyone to know yet. She was wonderful about using this blog to sort through some of her experiences and we were proud she had the moxie to share her story, for the sake of helping others, even though there were some key people in her life that she had yet to share it with. Today she has agreed to “Come out” of the closet (Not literally as in becoming gay- although the jury’s still out on that one….I mean she does text me like every day to tell me how much she loves me) just literally as in she’s willing to expose her real name. We are fortunate enough to have this sexxy (not tall but still skinny) “Victoria Secret-esque” “Thelma and Louise Bad Ass Courageous Diva of the Month” share her latest experiences in battling this horrid disease. Here’s her latest update- Stefanie Friedman, you ROCK!
(PS we will still be referring to Stefanie as Victoria Secret because her husband really sees her like the tall skinny model in the photo captured below. As you can see, he’s even willing to walk next to her wearing scrawny wings to showcase his love.)
“Victoria Secret”: So what do you want from me now?
Thelma & Louise: Its been a full 2 months since we last interviewed you and we want to know what the hell is going on.
“Victoria S”: Do you think anyone read part 1?
Thelma & Louise: Probably not. So here’s a little recap for the 2 people that will probably read part 2-
Last time we spoke you had just gotten a pretty scary diagnosis. (you can read Victoria Secret’s first interview HERE) At that point no one knew you had breast cancer except for T&L and a few therapists. Tell us, where are you today in this incredible journey? And please take us through every detail, We are thorough like that.
“Victoria S”: Well, in 10 fun-filled weeks I was diagnosed with breast cancer, had 2 surgeries, genetic testing, and now seem to be in pretty good shape! Tomorrow I go to my oncologist and talk about radiation/hormone therapy. I don’t need chemo so it’s a good day!
Thelma & Louise: Wow! That IS a lot to happen in 70 days- I don’t think that much happens to most people in 10 weeks. I mean Gerbils give birth in like 26 days, but I think they’re the only ones who have that sort of turn around.
“Victoria S”: Wait, I forgot to add that I had a few MRI’s, 2 biopsies. Can’t forget that fun time.
Thelma & Louise: Like I said- Gerbil excitement. Now please, Walk us through a few things, did you ever decide to tell your children about the diagnosis, and if so, how did that go down?And why were you hesitant to share it with them in the first place?
“Victoria S”: I didn’t want to tell anyone what was going on until I knew what I was facing. The conversation could have gone one of two ways. Once I was told this was manageable and I wasn’t going to fucking DIE (at least from this!) I was able to decide how to tell the family. I was so grateful that this was the conversation I was going to have with my kids. Not saying good-bye. Even writing that it chokes me up.
After I got results from genetic testing and didn’t have the gene that would have led me to a double mastectomy and removal of other lady parts, we decided a lumpectomy would be fine for my care. I found out the Monday of Thanksgiving and decided to wait until after Thanksgiving to share the whole story. I didn’t want to ruin everyone’s holiday.
Thelma & Louise: Smart move
Victoria S: Smarter then a Gerbel?
Thelma & Louise: Let’s not push it. So how did that conversation go over?
Victoria S: I have two daughters ages 16 and 13 and a son who is 6 years old. So, one daughter broke down, hyperventilated and got under the covers. The other one just took it all in and was very quiet. The little boy was with his grandparents playing ninja. He knows nothing. Just mommy has a boo boo in her armpit and he can’t jump on me for a while. The hysterical daughter asked 300 questions after she calmed down. The quiet daughter was fine until the next day when she was getting out of the car to go to school. She lost it.
OK. what else? What didn’t I answer?
Thelma & Louise: Nothing, you’re doing great.
What’s important to remember is how children process differently, and it sounds like both of your daughters definitely processed this in their own distinct way, and It sounds like you handled it great. How do they seem to be handling it now that the cat’s out of the bag?
Victoria S: I was very prepared. I had and still have a wonderful (man) team of experts who helped me prepare for that moment. And I am almost 49 and I like gift cards. I REALLY like gift cards.
Thelma & Louise: For those of you reading this article, please take note…..GIFT CARDS can be sent to – where should we send those?
Back to reality….tell us what was the most difficult moment you’ve had in all these 10 weeks?
Victoria S: You mean “Gerbel years”
Thelma & Louise: Correct
Victoria S: I would say getting the call from the doctor with the news and then not knowing if I was going to live or die was high up there on the difficult moments. I cannot even express how scary and painful that was. And I saw three different doctors before I was actually convinced that it was going to be OK. I didn’t beleive anyone!
(Please fix my spelling of believe!)☺
Thelma & Louise: (Will do) (funny I always misspell that word too. Fuck that word)
Victoria’s a model so she can’t spell. She meant to write “BELIEVE”. Now the spell mongers can shut it. Good?
Victoria S: Yes. Thanks.
Thelma & Louise: It sounds like you’ve been literally given a second chance at life, so what’s new on your bucket list now?
Victoria S: I am so grateful that I can finally breathe and FINALLY not get worked up over things that used to drive me insane and cause me stress. And because of this, I seem to be much happier AND patient. So, now my bucket list is to enjoy everything I can, to learn to be in the present and enjoy everything. And just LIVE – don’t wait for things – don’t wait for the right time to get something done – it might never happen – just enjoy the little things. That sounds dorky. Oh, and I want to go on vacation with my family like ASAP!!!!
Thelma & Louise: Where do you want to go? Our readers may want to send you…mine as well say it….
Victoria S: I don’t even care. I just want to be with them somewhere – just the 5 of us – in a hotel fighting about who gets what bed.
Thelma & Louise: So like Motel 6 by the freeway?
Victoria S: That would seriously be fine. I am not kidding. Even just a trip to Disneyland overnight…Legoland…. Hawaii…Mexico….
Thelma & Louise: So Motel 6 to Cabo. Wow that changed real quick.
We at Thelma and Louise (there’s actually no we, but I like saying that so it seems like “we” have a big company of people) So we at Thelma and Louise believe that everything that happens in our lives good and bad seasons us further to develop in to a better more aware human being. That being said, now that you have been “Seasoned” like a cupcake on steroids, we’d like to ask you to play a little game with us. You ready?
Victoria S: ok. Do I have to be naked for this game?
Thelma & Louise: I’m going to say a word, and I want you to write the first word that comes to mind. Here we go:
Victoria S: LOVE
Thelma & Louise: HAPPINESS
Victoria S: JOY
Thelma & Louise: DEATH
Victoria S: SCARY
Thelma & Louise: ALIVE
Victoria S: EXCITED
Thelma & Louise: MOST IMPORTANT PRIORITY (that was 3 words, so shoot me)
Victoria S: FAMILY and GIFT CARDS (that’s two words)
Thelma & Louise: LOVE IT! That wasn’t a word….the game is done. You passed with flying colors
Victoria S: OK. Now I have a game for you. Ready?
Thelma & Louise: Hit me
Victoria S: What’s the first word you think of when you hear Victoria Secret? (me, not the tramps)
Thelma & Louise: I thought you were a tramp. I have more than one word that comes to mind….(Besides wings)
Sexxy ….no wait…
PROUD OF YOU
Victoria S: It’s weird. I have to tell you, I do NOT feel like a warrior. I feel like there are so many other women who have this disease and have to fight so so hard week in and week out. I seemed to have gotten so lucky and I have no right to call myself a fighter or warrior or whatever adjectives are used to describe these incredible women out there battling this.
Thelma & Louise: I think a warrior is someone who lives graciously through difficult experiences, and I think you have done that valiantly. You don’t have to almost die, or be in a hospital bed, or have to have horrible life ending news to become a warrior. Everyone’s personal test is truly there’s to experience, and it’s how we experience these pitfalls that – like I said- season us. I remember visiting you right after your surgery, You never complained once, even though I know that you were in severe pain, (I would have milked it more) you continued to keep your incredible sense of humor through it all. I think that when life hits us hard- that is when our true character comes out. And I guess that’s why I think of you as a warrior. Because you battled, but never allowed the battle to get you – you got IT. AND that’s what makes you the “Thelma and Louise Bad Ass Courageous Diva of the Month.”
Victoria S: OK, you’ve convinced me
Thelma & Louise: Your trophy is in the mail.
Victoria S: Are we done? I have to poop
Thelma & Louise: Yes. Thanks for sharing-
NOW GET REAL OR GO HOME!